How can I get along in
business,
where I have to make a lot of
social contacts, if I don't drink?
Social drinking has become an
accepted part of business enterprise in many fields these days. Many
contacts with customers and prospective customers are timed to coincide with
occasions when cocktails, highballs, or cordials seem the appropriate order
of the day or night. Many now in A.A. would be the first to concede that
they had often transacted important business in bars, cocktail lounges, or
hotel rooms or even during parties in private homes.
It is surprising, however, how
much of the world's work is accomplished without the benefit of alcohol. It
is equally surprising to many alcoholics to discover how many recognized
leaders in business, industry, professional life, and the arts have attained
success without dependence on alcohol.
In fact, many who are now sober in
A.A. admit that they used "business contacts" as one of several excuses for
drinking. Now that they no longer drink, they find that they can actually
accomplish more than they used to. Sobriety has proved no hindrance to their
ability to win friends and influence people who might contribute to their
economic success.
This does not mean that all A.A.s
suddenly avoid their friends or business associates who drink. If a friend
wants a cocktail or two before lunch, the A.A. will usually take a soft
drink, coffee, or one of the popular juices. If the A.A. is invited to a
cocktail party being given for business reasons, there will generally be no
hesitation about attending. The alcoholic knows from experience that most of
the other guests are concerned with their own drinks, and are not likely to
care particularly what anyone else happens to be drinking.
While beginning to take pride in
the quality and quantity of work on the job, the newcomer to A.A. is likely
to find that the payoff in most lines of business is still based on
performance. This was not always apparent in the drinking days. The
alcoholic may then have been convinced that charm, ingenuity, and
conviviality were the chief keys to business success. While these qualities
are undoubtedly helpful to the person who drinks in a controlled manner,
they are not enough for the alcoholic, if only because the latter, while
drinking, is inclined to assign to them far more importance than they
deserve.